Love Honour Respect
The other day I overheard a conversation among a couple of young people, they were asking each other whether they would be committed to their partners if they got married. This was and is very strange to me as I feel that commitment is all about you, the person and not a situation like the marriage.
Commitment is surely what a person feels about everything that they do in their lives and has more to do with self respect and love. If you respect yourself then you will commit to doing your best at school, commit to gaining the trust of others, commit to giving of your best in your job, commit to serving your clients to the best of your ability, commit to being a good friend, commit to helping someone a little less fortunate than yourself, commit to standing by your family and loved ones in their times of need and sharing in their good fortunes, honouring your word when you give it. All these things require commitment and so then commitment should naturally migrate to your feelings on marriage it should never have to be a discussion or even a second thought.
All commitment requires WORK and a genuine love in order to be successfull, it is not a thought process but rather a natural act of respect for oneself. Commitment is about personal honesty and the willingness to share in the marriage, to make it the best marriage in the world, to put in every ounce of energy to make it happy, to make it fun, to make it genuine, to never stop thinking of new ideas that would expand this loving relationship, to go out of your way to do a little thing to surprise your partner, these are the elements of commitment.
“People travel to wonder at the height of the mountains,
at the huge waves of the seas,
at the long course of the rivers,
at the vast compass of the ocean,
at the circular motion of the stars,
and yet they pass by themselves without wondering.”
St. Augustine, 354 430
May 15th, 2006 at 7:04 pm
I couldn’t agree more in a World where we are so preoccupied with our selves and our own lives yet we forget how to conduct the life itself.
What you have said above is fantastic and I have sent it to my only Family, My Sister and Girlfriend, whom I cherish dearly and love more.
I like to add something my Fatehr wrote about Selfishness ,he was a Great man, Hailed a Legend at his Funeral last year, I great loss to me! I thought I would share it with you, not quite Commitment, however relevant to a Happy and Full life!
“. . All actions take place in time by the interweaving of the forces of nature, But the man lost in Selfish delusion thinks that he himself is the actor. But the man who knows the relation between the forces of nature, work upon other forces of nature and becomes not their Slave! . .” Gavin Wayne Schmidt
Brett